Slow parenting: slow down to improve the parent-child relationship
Our pace of life should not be a race against the clock
Very often, the cause is to be found on the side of the excessive occupation of the young and their lack of rest. Parents, wanting to give them the best and see them succeed, sometimes do too much. As soon as the school is finished, the children go on with their extracurricular activities (sports, music, language lessons), their homework, bathing, dinner ... They follow the rhythm of life, often hectic, of their parents forever do more and better. A race against the clock difficult to hold in the long term for children as adults.
The overworked body is in surge. "Our nervous system has a sympathetic system that allows us to act, drink, eat, talk and draw on our energy, and a parasympathetic system that allows the body to recover, rest and assimilate. systems are interdependent, "explains the sophrologist. The quest for performance valued by society leads to a frenzy that solicits the sympathetic system and creates an imbalance of the nervous system.
Consequences on the behavior
This quest undermines the development of the child who does not have time to integrate what he has learned. "He becomes a learned monkey who is afraid of not getting there," says Malvina Girard. These surges lead to disorders of attention, concentration, irritability, anxiety ... The child, tired and stressed, has more difficulty managing his emotions, his frustrations, his fears. And parents, stressed and pressed by the time and the multitude of tasks to accomplish, often get angry more easily. What create a climate tense at home ...
Moreover, to go faster, parents sometimes do things in the place of their child: they make his shoelaces, dress him, wash his teeth, get rid of his plate, make his bed, store his toys ... Unfortunately, The author explains that this leads to a lack of self-confidence in the child, autonomy, initiative and perseverance. "The child can develop negative thoughts, say that he is zero, that he will never succeed, that others are better than him, that he is not normal ..." warns Malvina Girard. "There is a lack of respect for the rhythm of the child and the parent, we must not try to be like others, we must know its limits and take into account the signals sent by our body. is not his, the child may feel assaulted and enter into provocation, "adds the specialist.
Moreover, if he multiplies his activities, he does not have time to feel what makes him feel good, what he really likes. He performs like a robot what is considered good for him, for its development. The author notes that our society is increasingly outward looking and less and less inward. We are ultra connected to the world, but not to ourselves or those around us. Who has not surfed the social networks or answered sms while at a dinner with family or friends? Who has not sent happy new year messages to his phone book before even having greeted others at his side? To get up and enter the slow parenting, we must review certain habits and get back to basics.
Slow parenting: refocusing on your needs and those of your child
To rebalance her nervous system by reactivating the parasympathetic system, Malvina Girard recommends above all to lighten her schedule. Also spot signs of irritation, fatigue. Listen to your body to know your limits and give you a break. If you feel the excitement rising in you, say it as calmly as possible to your child and isolate yourself a little in your room. You will pass on this habit to him more readily. Between 3 and 6 years old, children are very curious. This is the age of the famous "why". Take the opportunity to show them that the day is structured in such a way as to meet the physiological needs: to eat, to sleep, to spend ... In her book, Malvina Girard explains that giving your body what it needs is the basis self-respect.
Very often, the cause is to be found on the side of the excessive occupation of the young and their lack of rest. Parents, wanting to give them the best and see them succeed, sometimes do too much. As soon as the school is finished, the children go on with their extracurricular activities (sports, music, language lessons), their homework, bathing, dinner ... They follow the rhythm of life, often hectic, of their parents forever do more and better. A race against the clock difficult to hold in the long term for children as adults.
The overworked body is in surge. "Our nervous system has a sympathetic system that allows us to act, drink, eat, talk and draw on our energy, and a parasympathetic system that allows the body to recover, rest and assimilate. systems are interdependent, "explains the sophrologist. The quest for performance valued by society leads to a frenzy that solicits the sympathetic system and creates an imbalance of the nervous system.
Consequences on the behavior
This quest undermines the development of the child who does not have time to integrate what he has learned. "He becomes a learned monkey who is afraid of not getting there," says Malvina Girard. These surges lead to disorders of attention, concentration, irritability, anxiety ... The child, tired and stressed, has more difficulty managing his emotions, his frustrations, his fears. And parents, stressed and pressed by the time and the multitude of tasks to accomplish, often get angry more easily. What create a climate tense at home ...
Moreover, to go faster, parents sometimes do things in the place of their child: they make his shoelaces, dress him, wash his teeth, get rid of his plate, make his bed, store his toys ... Unfortunately, The author explains that this leads to a lack of self-confidence in the child, autonomy, initiative and perseverance. "The child can develop negative thoughts, say that he is zero, that he will never succeed, that others are better than him, that he is not normal ..." warns Malvina Girard. "There is a lack of respect for the rhythm of the child and the parent, we must not try to be like others, we must know its limits and take into account the signals sent by our body. is not his, the child may feel assaulted and enter into provocation, "adds the specialist.
Moreover, if he multiplies his activities, he does not have time to feel what makes him feel good, what he really likes. He performs like a robot what is considered good for him, for its development. The author notes that our society is increasingly outward looking and less and less inward. We are ultra connected to the world, but not to ourselves or those around us. Who has not surfed the social networks or answered sms while at a dinner with family or friends? Who has not sent happy new year messages to his phone book before even having greeted others at his side? To get up and enter the slow parenting, we must review certain habits and get back to basics.
Slow parenting: refocusing on your needs and those of your child
To rebalance her nervous system by reactivating the parasympathetic system, Malvina Girard recommends above all to lighten her schedule. Also spot signs of irritation, fatigue. Listen to your body to know your limits and give you a break. If you feel the excitement rising in you, say it as calmly as possible to your child and isolate yourself a little in your room. You will pass on this habit to him more readily. Between 3 and 6 years old, children are very curious. This is the age of the famous "why". Take the opportunity to show them that the day is structured in such a way as to meet the physiological needs: to eat, to sleep, to spend ... In her book, Malvina Girard explains that giving your body what it needs is the basis self-respect.
Lahore Board 11th Class Result 2018 | FA, FSC, ICS, ICOM
The intermediate part 1 students will get the Lahore Board 11th Class Result 2018 at this page. We wish all the best to intermediate part 1 students for their annual exam’s result. Stay in touch with fscresult2018 to get the confirmed and authentic news of results.
if you check the result please click here Lahore Board 11th Class Result 2018
Comments
Post a Comment